InternationalPlayboy
11-03-2005, 11:55 AM
Ok, probably shouldn't post this one, but I just spazz out sometimes.
Was on vacation for a week in San Diego. Part of the purpose of the trip was a combination 20 year/10 year anniversary with a woman I know there and also a late birthday celebration for myself. The Saturday after I arrived, I was greeted by my friend with French Champagne and birthday gifts, then we went out on the town. Saw "Mamma Mia!" (great show), then headed for the House of Blues for some dancing. Really tore it up. I still laugh at the image of the 60-something percussionist in the band performing. He was so taken by my date that he jumped onto the dance floor and shook his maracas at hers. It was a great time and worked off a lot of built up stress for both of us. :cheers:
The following saturday, I'm to head back home to the sticks, but stopped at my friend's place to help her with her "new" computer (a used Compaq with Windows 98 that someone had given her). I quickly fell into my natural nerd state and set her up and even got her a working Internet connection. To reward me for my efforts, she took me out for dinner. It was almost 9 PM and I still had a three hour drive facing me to get home. She was headed to a mountain resort area near L.A., where she owns a cabin. Between there and her home, she owns a house in a fairly new community, which she bought on speculation, about a 40 minute drive from her home near San Diego. Her plan was to drive to that house that night, then make the rest of the trip to her cabin the next day.
At the restaurant, she suggested that instead of making the long drive home, that I should follow her to her other place and stay there for the night. :thumbsup: I was all for that, so we went back to her place and packed up her car. As we were preparing to leave, she asked if I wanted written directions, which I then said would be a good idea. She decided I just needed her cell number and I could call her if I got lost.
I don't see well driving in the dark, and I have to concentrate on not running into things while blinded by oncomming traffic. It didn't dawn on me that I would have problems following another vehicle. Well, between her house and the first main street in her community are two four-way stop signs. Between the first stop and the second one, a vehicle got between us. The second stop was below the crest of a hill, and by the time I got through, she was nowhere to be found. I headed the direction I thought we were to go, but didn't see her anywhere and doubled back. Stopping, I tried her cell phone, and she didn't answer. So I left my number as a page and a voice message. Tried a couple of times after that but never got through. I had three options. Get a motel and drive home the next day, head to the town her other house was located at, which was so new, it wasn't on any of my maps, or start for home. I didn't want to spend the money on a room and if I headed to the other town, I still didn't have an address, so would still be lost once I got there, so I headed for home, arriving around 1:30 AM. :sad:
Not only was I disappointed as this was the first time she suggested that I stay at her place, but I didn't even get a proper goodbye after all of the good time we had that week. When I finally got ahold of her a few days later, I learned the details on how this comedy of errors happened. She had left her cell phone at home and taken her work phone instead. That's the one number I didn't call. She then told me that she had heard the messages I had left, but I didn't leave a number for her to call me! :frustrate (I just assumed she had her cell and that it would generate my number, besides, I did leave it in a page - to her cell.) She said that she had waited at the gas station she had pointed out as we returned from the restaurant. Admittedly, I didn't pay much attention at that time as I was driving and concentrating on not running into things. I did drive in that direction but never saw her vehicle. Again, my eyes aren't that good at night anymore and I can't drive and sightsee at the same time.
She was on the freeway in traffic (returning from her cabin) and cut the call short, so I still don't feel I have lose ends tied up. I want to call but am trying to wait a week or two so I don't appear as needy, or bothersome. Hopefully, she'll call soon with computer questions.
I guess it just wasn't meant to happen that night. I think the cosmos were guiding me back home as I had a teleconference the next morning for a moneymaking venture that I'm excited about and would have missed the call if I hadn't returned. And I'm glad I made the conference as it's going to be a bit harder to learn than I thought it would be.
Suffering from regular bouts of low self-esteem and anxiety, I'm probably making this to be worse in my mind that it actually is. My rational mind tells me that this won't hurt a 10 year old friendship that much, but the anxious chatter says otherwise. Interestingly, I thought it kind of ironic in symbolism. She has started with Toastmasters and is really enjoying it. She has aspirations in starting a new carreer as a motivational speaker, which, giving her personality, I think she could really be successful at. Feeling stagnated right now in life, I have a feeling she won't be around much longer and I have visions of her leaving me behind in a cloud of dust. Funny that it actually happened last weekend.
Was on vacation for a week in San Diego. Part of the purpose of the trip was a combination 20 year/10 year anniversary with a woman I know there and also a late birthday celebration for myself. The Saturday after I arrived, I was greeted by my friend with French Champagne and birthday gifts, then we went out on the town. Saw "Mamma Mia!" (great show), then headed for the House of Blues for some dancing. Really tore it up. I still laugh at the image of the 60-something percussionist in the band performing. He was so taken by my date that he jumped onto the dance floor and shook his maracas at hers. It was a great time and worked off a lot of built up stress for both of us. :cheers:
The following saturday, I'm to head back home to the sticks, but stopped at my friend's place to help her with her "new" computer (a used Compaq with Windows 98 that someone had given her). I quickly fell into my natural nerd state and set her up and even got her a working Internet connection. To reward me for my efforts, she took me out for dinner. It was almost 9 PM and I still had a three hour drive facing me to get home. She was headed to a mountain resort area near L.A., where she owns a cabin. Between there and her home, she owns a house in a fairly new community, which she bought on speculation, about a 40 minute drive from her home near San Diego. Her plan was to drive to that house that night, then make the rest of the trip to her cabin the next day.
At the restaurant, she suggested that instead of making the long drive home, that I should follow her to her other place and stay there for the night. :thumbsup: I was all for that, so we went back to her place and packed up her car. As we were preparing to leave, she asked if I wanted written directions, which I then said would be a good idea. She decided I just needed her cell number and I could call her if I got lost.
I don't see well driving in the dark, and I have to concentrate on not running into things while blinded by oncomming traffic. It didn't dawn on me that I would have problems following another vehicle. Well, between her house and the first main street in her community are two four-way stop signs. Between the first stop and the second one, a vehicle got between us. The second stop was below the crest of a hill, and by the time I got through, she was nowhere to be found. I headed the direction I thought we were to go, but didn't see her anywhere and doubled back. Stopping, I tried her cell phone, and she didn't answer. So I left my number as a page and a voice message. Tried a couple of times after that but never got through. I had three options. Get a motel and drive home the next day, head to the town her other house was located at, which was so new, it wasn't on any of my maps, or start for home. I didn't want to spend the money on a room and if I headed to the other town, I still didn't have an address, so would still be lost once I got there, so I headed for home, arriving around 1:30 AM. :sad:
Not only was I disappointed as this was the first time she suggested that I stay at her place, but I didn't even get a proper goodbye after all of the good time we had that week. When I finally got ahold of her a few days later, I learned the details on how this comedy of errors happened. She had left her cell phone at home and taken her work phone instead. That's the one number I didn't call. She then told me that she had heard the messages I had left, but I didn't leave a number for her to call me! :frustrate (I just assumed she had her cell and that it would generate my number, besides, I did leave it in a page - to her cell.) She said that she had waited at the gas station she had pointed out as we returned from the restaurant. Admittedly, I didn't pay much attention at that time as I was driving and concentrating on not running into things. I did drive in that direction but never saw her vehicle. Again, my eyes aren't that good at night anymore and I can't drive and sightsee at the same time.
She was on the freeway in traffic (returning from her cabin) and cut the call short, so I still don't feel I have lose ends tied up. I want to call but am trying to wait a week or two so I don't appear as needy, or bothersome. Hopefully, she'll call soon with computer questions.
I guess it just wasn't meant to happen that night. I think the cosmos were guiding me back home as I had a teleconference the next morning for a moneymaking venture that I'm excited about and would have missed the call if I hadn't returned. And I'm glad I made the conference as it's going to be a bit harder to learn than I thought it would be.
Suffering from regular bouts of low self-esteem and anxiety, I'm probably making this to be worse in my mind that it actually is. My rational mind tells me that this won't hurt a 10 year old friendship that much, but the anxious chatter says otherwise. Interestingly, I thought it kind of ironic in symbolism. She has started with Toastmasters and is really enjoying it. She has aspirations in starting a new carreer as a motivational speaker, which, giving her personality, I think she could really be successful at. Feeling stagnated right now in life, I have a feeling she won't be around much longer and I have visions of her leaving me behind in a cloud of dust. Funny that it actually happened last weekend.